Coincidence or Cause?

I find it ironic that the problems I had with my daughter in law came at the funeral of my former mother in law. Perhaps there's a lesson there.

Don't bring up "issues" at emotionally loaded events -- funerals, weddings, holidays. Of course, that's probably when we want to bring them up. Although I was not aware that I was emotionally fragile at the time, that might have been a delusion! And certainly my son was. And he was the one who took our conversation and ran with it, to his wife who was feeling like an outsider and wasn't aware that I really was the ultimate outsider there - former daughter-in-law a guest in the house of my newly divorced ex-husband and his brother and family.

As my former brother-in-law would say, "What a scene".